It’s ok to not be “perfect” in fact it’s unrealistic

It’s 9am, I’m waiting for a text or face time from one of the family or my friends, “how are you?” “what you up to?” “just up now”
“Whats your plans today?“
All normal morning messages and I am SO grateful for the communication we have these days! It’s easy to keep in contact with everyone.

Truth is, I’ve been up since 6.30am, beds made, 2 loads of washing done, breakfast, kitchen cleaned, bathroom cleaned, High chair washed down, toys picked up, a couple of nappies and maybe two outfit changes and so on (depending how messy breakfast was) this is a very productive morning for me and it’s not always the case every day, I may get only half of this done and bear in mind I have a very cute little rascal running around me undoing it all, plus it must be so strange for the toddlers too… you should see the make shift hair cut I just gave poor Conor!
About 10am I’m sitting down having some tea and gearing up to start the whole process again because I live with a toddler in isolation and my husband is still out working so it can feel like I’m running around in circles. Add in the crazy admin of all the postponements of weddings I was due to work and the tiredness can be overwhelming. Right now Conor is staring at me mischievously with some kitchen roll thinking I’m going to tear this up and trot around sprinkling my work all over the apartment! I’m not complaining just being honest.

I Scroll through every social media channel and it is saturated with posts about how to stay productive and what to do with your kids and how to keep your business going and so on and so on and so on.
I take my hat off to these wonderful people who are posting ideas and Creative ways to stay busy during this weird time.
So I get out the crayons and paper, try to re-create a few things and it only lasts a few minutes because, well, Conor is two. He just wants to absolutely wreck the place…. so I just let him (he’s on top of me right now trying to get rid of this article) I don’t like pushing against the tide in this situation, because I believe we need to do what works best for US.
The point of my post today is just simply take it easy on yourself. Whatever position you are in, be it working from home, still working, at home with kids and getting no time for yourself whatsoever…. it doesn’t matter, the sheer fact is no matter how ideal our situation might look, we are human and we are all in this pandemic in a bubble of uncertainty. So whatever your isolation looks like, embrace it and don’t think you have to have it perfect. If your kid wants to watch Disney all day and it’s giving you some head space, then let them. If they don’t want to do the activities you’ve set out, let them explore what they want. My point again, Do what works for you.

What I have found working is taking what I can from all the productivity posts for example when it comes to say a recipe or craft idea, I’ll take on the idea and try figure something out that is similar myself because personally I don’t have a stocked baking pantry (one day) or a big supply of craft items so we make do with what’s on hand because these things are not easily accessible right now and that’s ok. Everyone has different ways of coping, we are not all the same. Some love getting stuck in to tasks or new projects and some feel easier reading a book or watching the telly.
So deep breaths everyone and from one parent to another….. none of us have it perfectly together and we are doing great! Xxx

Kim Kiernan

Makeup Artist & Beauty Columnist

Kim provides professional makeup services in Malta for any occasion, working in all areas of makeup including Bridal, photographic, television, film and special effects as well as teaching makeup lessons one to one and to groups. With over 10 years experience, Kim has worked with the biggest and most sought after brands in the industry, internationally with MAC, Smashbox and Estee Lauder in Dublin and Toronto and most recently, heading the MAC Cosmetics brand in it's launch in Malta.

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